Heyoooooo, I’m 36 today!
I may look like this now …
… but my heart looks like this.
Heyoooooo, I’m 36 today!
I may look like this now …
… but my heart looks like this.
Wow, I wish this article had been available to me back in 1997.
What Every OCD Sufferer Should Know About Vows and Promises: http://ow.ly/CguX30hM2wK
In part two of my Thoughts on Writing series, I wanted to share with you the details around getting a book deal.
As a young writer, I thought it went something like write a manuscript –> mail it to publishers –> if someone liked it, they would make it into a book. Voila!
Here’s the reality:
Very, very few publishers accept unsolicited manuscripts, and you’re told the way to get your story in front of an editor is via a literary agent, who will serve as a liaison between you and the publisher. So you begin your research, looking for agents who represent the kind of book you’ve written and whose brief wishlist on their website makes you think they might connect with your story. You start to think weird thoughts, like maybe you’re making a real connection with someone’s … online profile. Like maybe the matrix is glitching on you as you read this one because this is the one. You make a list of 100 agents, telling yourself that if all 100 say no, then this book is simply not ready for publication.
Meanwhile, you write a query letter, trying to be both professional and creative as you summarize your entire book into one paragraph, then into one sentence. You run hooks past all your friends to see which ones grab them, and it’s really impossible to tell because these same friends are so intimately acquainted with your story already that they are not at all objective.
(I’ve written in extreme detail about querying over here.)
You start sending out the query letters– almost entirely via email, though every agent wants something different: query and synopsis and the first ten pages. Or query and chapter summary and the first three chapters. Or query alone, and you hope that one-page letter can find its feet.
It’s an emotional roller coaster. Some are interested, some are not. Some are silent and you won’t hear back from them until six months after your book has been published. Some ask for more chapters. Some ask for the whole manuscript. Some politely say no.
But someone says yes.
You sign with that agent, and– guess what– you get to keep your seat on that emotional roller coaster while your agent pitches your manuscript to editors. Rejection is likely, and you knew that, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t still sting.
But then, one magical day, you get a call from your agent saying an editor loved it and has made an offer.
Everything feels surreal. You stand on the veranda outside of your office and call your dad and say, “I got a book deal.”
The contract comes later, so much later than you’d have guessed. It takes four months before you sign it, and even though you’ve already started on revisions with your editor, inking your signature onto those papers makes everything seem real. Maybe up till now you thought this was a trick or that you’d say something annoying and they’d call it all off.
Now it’s binding. You breathe a sigh of relief.
So many of my blog readers are anonymous. I know you’re out there, friends! Would you humor me and leave a comment? It will only take you a minute, and it would delight this poor old writer who has the winter blues and whose manuscript is going to be the death of her.
Here’s what I want to know:
1. Your name.
2. Something you want.
3. The song you can’t get enough of.
4. Your favorite word.
5. A challenge you’re facing.
As for me:
That’s good. And frustrating.
This is NOT an ad.
I don’t have much money, and I don’t have much time, but one thing I love to do is browse online, especially Sephora and Poshmark. I love looking at makeup (especially lip products) and jewelry (especially necklaces), and– even though this might feel so shallow– I wanted to share that joy with you. 🙂
Hands-down, my favorite lip product is the shade Dolly in Buxom’s full-on lip polish (with shimmer) or full-on lip cream (only shine). It’s subtle but pretty, and it makes your lips cool and moisturized without feeling sticky. I love it.
And then, of course, there’s Poshmark.
Poshmark is like eBay for outfits. I mostly look at the jewelry, but I love pretending to be a stylist and pulling together an entire outfit, like so:
Your favorite pair of jeans + a few gold bangle bracelets +
= one classy outfit.
J. Crew necklace $36 ($17 on Poshmark)
Banana Republic clutch $60 ($14 on Poshmark)
J. Crew earrings $30+ ($18 on Poshmark)
Distressed taupe booties $65 ($24 on Poshmark)
Ann Taylor sleeveless top $45 ($19 on Poshmark)
OR Max Studio sleeveless top $58 ($15 on Poshmark)
A $236 outfit for $92 or a $249 for $88. Not too shabby, Sommers.
Of course, that doesn’t factor in shipping costs, which are not fun, especially when you have to pay separate sellers (although most sellers will give you a deal if you “bundle”/buy multiple items from them at once).
And I’m not even going to buy these items anyway.
But it sure is fun to look. 🙂
Questions for you:
What are your indulgences?
Have you ever used Poshmark?
Would you buy any of these items?
Is this blog post so lame?
Blog readers repeatedly tell me they want to know more about the creative process, the road to publishing … and through publishing … and life on the other side of publishing, especially in regard to working on a second book. They ask where I get my ideas, how I plan, how I execute, how I get over writer’s block.
And here’s the thing: I don’t feel like an expert, by any stretch of the imagination. So sometimes it feels pretentious to me to offer advice when I’m such a novice myself. With that caveat, I am always happy to talk about creativity, so let’s dive in.
1. Do you have to write? Is it in your blood? Is writing a part of your identity and calling?
If it’s not, why start? Writing is deeply meaningful, yes– but it’s also hard and painful, it’s slow work that is very unlikely to make you rich, and true creativity requires you give so much of yourself to the task.
George Orwell said: “Writing a book is a horrible, exhausting struggle, like a long bout with some painful illness. One would never undertake such a thing if one were not driven on by some demon whom one can neither resist nor understand.
2. The journey is probably going to be longer and slower than you think.
You might never have your work published. If you write because you have to write, because you’re a writer in your bones, then this won’t matter. (Or at least it won’t matter enough to stop you!)
3. Don’t quit your day job. Yet.
If you are a talented communicator, you will be able to find work, work that puts food on the table, pays the rent, renews your prescription meds (you think I’m joking, but I’m not). Having your basic needs met will allow you to pour more of your energy into your creative pursuits. In that sense, you may not even want your day job to be especially creative– many of us have a limit to our daily creative energy; for us, it’s better to use a different part of our brains during the work day and save that creative energy for writing.
4. Read extensively.
I knew a man who wanted to be a novelist, but he claimed he didn’t have enough time to read. This is like someone saying they want to be an Olympic athlete but don’t have time to use the weight room.
Read like crazy: everything [good] you can get your hands on, but especially in your genre. Poetry too; it will improve your prose.
Stephen King makes it clear: “If you don’t have time to read, you don’t have the time (or the tools) to write. Simple as that.”
Annie Proulx says: “You should write because you love the shape of stories and sentences and the creation of different words on a page. Writing comes from reading, and reading is the finest teacher of how to write.”
5. Write extensively, even when you’re not inspired.
As many have noted before, amateurs wait for inspiration; everyone else just gets up and goes to work. Might as well. You need to put 10,000 hours of practice into something to become an expert. Better get started.
6. You don’t need anything fancy: just a word processor or a pen and paper.
I know people who swear by Scrivener and others who use something like WriteRoom or DarkRoom to limit distractions, but ultimately, all you need is a way to record your story. Some people choose to write by hand first, then transfer it into an electronic document later, and there are studies that say writing by hand does slow a writer down, which can have many benefits. As for me, I use a computer for that exact reason– I don’t want to slow down while I’m writing. But later, when I need to solve issues, figure out plot holes, brainstorm new scenes, I sit down with a notebook and pen too.
7. Do your research, but don’t let it become procrastination.
I have friends who are brilliant writers– but who will spend so much time plotting and planning and world-building and researching that they never really get around to writing their stories. I admit everyone is different here (some writers plot extensively a la J.K. Rowling, some writers write by the seat of their pants a la Ray Bradbury)– and research and details are important— but don’t let anything keep you from actually writing. The research should propel your project forward, not stall it out.
8. Learn the craft.
I know that some of the greatest writers had no formal education in it, but as for me? Well, I needed a bachelor’s degree in writing to give me roots and wings. Set aside some money to take a course or attend a writer’s workshop. Read books about craft (my favorites: The Emotional Craft of Fiction by Donald Maass and The Anatomy of Story by John Truby) and the writing life (my favorites: Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott and The War of Art by Stephen Pressfield).
9. Solicit feedback and revise.
Join a writing group or find some beta writers. Better yet, do both. Make sure they actually know what good literature is. They should be good writers themselves or at least good readers. And do take their advice or at the very least try it out. No one said you have to keep your revisions. Take their feedback, make revisions, and then decide whether to take it or leave it. It goes without saying (I hope) that all this should be done without putting up a fuss. You need feedback to make your writing sparkle. Well, at least most writers do.
Jeanette LeBlanc says: “Never get too attached to the first draft of anything – this includes writing, art, homes, love. You will revise and revise and revise. We are always in the midst of our own becoming.”
THINGS TO REMEMBER
10. Genres have word count guidelines.
Debut authors should be especially aware of this. Many literary agents won’t even bother with a manuscript that falls outside the genre word count guidelines. (Not that it has never happened– but it’s the exception, not the rule). There’s an excellent, detailed post about this Writer’s Digest.
11. Screw trends.
Write what you’re passionate about, not whatever is trendy in your genre. By the time you finish your novel about [insert trendy, current topic here], the topic will probably no longer be trendy or current.
12. The only true practice for writing a novel-length book is to write a novel-length book.
Short stories are their own separate beast, in my mind, so if you want to write a book, you have to DO IT. Does that mean your first book has a high chance of being not-so-great? Well, yes. I and most of the writers I’m friends with did not publish the very first novel that we wrote. I always say I had to write a book to learn I could do it before I could then write a good one.
13. You have all the permission in the world to write an awful first draft.
In fact, in the writing community, we commonly refer to these as “shitty first drafts.”
Hemingway said: “The first draft of anything is shit.”
Anne Lamott spends an entire chapter of Bird by Bird discussing “shitty first drafts”: “Almost all good writing begins with terrible first efforts. You need to start somewhere. Start by getting something—anything—down on paper. What I’ve learned to do when I sit down to work on a shitty first draft is to quiet the voices in my head.”
If it helps you to look at the flip-side, consider Jane Smiley’s take: “Every first draft is perfect, because all a first draft has to do is exist.”
Whatever way you look at it, remember that you have permission to write something that will not be the final something.
14. Perseverance and talent are both important in writing; if you want to publish, perseverance is more important than talent.
Maybe that’s a bold thing to say, but I really believe it. The writer-friends of mine who are published who wrote a first terrible-to-semi-awful first book? After they did that, they set it aside and wrote a second book. A third. A fourth. They didn’t stop after being rejected once or twice, and– say what you will– to spend years on a manuscript that never sees the light of day, then turn around and do that all over again without any guarantees? That’s gutsy. That’s driven. That’s why I said what I said in the first point of this post.
Thanks for reading, folks! In my upcoming posts, I’ll talk more about querying literary agents, getting a book deal, and what comes after. Stay tuned.
And please do leave a comment! I would love to have a discussion here; I’m not interested in being the only voice.
65% said keep posting as you are.
33% said it would be nice to know when to expect to hear from you.
Primary content of interest:
41% literature-related content
33% OCD-related content
22% updates on my life
4% faith-related content
But as one reader added, “I like it when you balance everything.”
75% want off-the-cuff posts
25% want polished posts
However, ten people made the same comment that they can’t tell the difference! 🙂
The rest of the questions asked for what sort of content you’d like to see on the blog in 2018, and I’m so grateful for all your input!
Thanks to your feedback, this is what I’m gonna try this year:
Posting polished, high-value content every Sunday and chiming in with any random personal updates whenever I feel like I have something to say! 🙂 The first series of the year begins tomorrow– “Thoughts on Writing”! I’m excited!
Wow, is this article by Dr. Fred Penzel ever relevant! I hear similar stories to this all the time from teen readers.
Living with OCD is never easy, and this can be especially true if you are a teenager. At a time when you’re trying hard to learn about who you are and how to find a place for yourself in the world, having a disorder like OCD can make you feel so different from everyone else. And the thought of having to talk about the disorder with anyone, let alone your friends and classmates, can be very scary. School is a small world, and things have a way of getting around pretty quickly, or so it can seem.
But talking to people and asking for help are the best ways to improve your situation. Your schoolmates may surprise you with their capacity for understanding. We often fear what we don’t understand. And your parents can help you to get the help and resources you need to succeed in school and beyond.
But what happens when your parents, the very people who should be most concerned about your well-being, don’t understand OCD and don’t know how to help you? Or worse yet, don’t believe that you are suffering from a disorder at all?
To read the entire post, click over the article on the IOCDF website here.
At myoneword.org, readers are encouraged to ditch the long list of new year’s resolutions and instead choose one word to focus on all year long, one word to inspire you, one word that encapsulates the character you want to have.
I’ve chosen abide.
Some people might think I take this whole “one word thing” a little too seriously, but I’ve found over the last couple of years (see: sacrifice and grace) that it is so powerful to let a word– a word that really represents a lifestyle– stay near to my heart as I make big choices.
That’s why I’ve been thinking of what my 2018 word would be for quite some time, even praying about what it should be.
I kept coming back to abide.
Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit by itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in me. I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing.
John 15:4-5, ESV
In that day you will know that I am in my Father, and you in me, and I in you.
John 14:20, ESV
I remember a class I once taught at my summer camp about a believer’s identity in Christ. I took that verse above– John 14:20– and made it an object lesson.
“Jesus,” I wrote on a slip of paper, then tucked it into a business envelope labelled “Jackie.”
“Christ in me,” I said, then put that envelope into a larger cardboard-sleeve mailer, which was also labelled “Jesus.”
“Christ in me, and I in him.” I put that whole collection into a larger bubble mailer, on which was written “GOD.”
“Christ in God, and I in him, and Christ in me,” I said, holding the whole package up, a sort of Russian nesting doll illustration with me and divinity. “Do you see how safe I am?”
This year I want to remind myself of that truth. To stay connected to the vine, and to bear much fruit. To be safe– but maybe not how you might think: to be so safe in Jesus that I can freely risk myself on others. It’s not about comfort. It’s about identity, an identity that fuels radical love and justice.
Here’s to 2018!