Online Dating: the [Suprisingly Serious] Preface

I never imagined I’d be single at 35.
I was gonna go to college, meet the man of my dreams during freshman orientation. We’d wait till college graduation to get married, or hey, maybe we wouldn’t. When you know, you know, we’d tell all our friends and professors who thought we were too young.


Or maybe, I’d watch all my college roommates find love, then all my post-college roommates … my summer camp kids … the college students I recruited when they were seventeen … the kids I used to babysit for.

And it’s been fine– or rather, most of the time it’s been fine. Honestly, the kind of boy I’d have wanted in college is almost the polar opposite of the man I’d want today. Mostly because I am nearly the polar opposite of myself in my early twenties: sheltered, extroverted, enslaved to a brain disorder, ungracious with myself and, unfortunately, with others too. Today, I live in freedom from OCD and legalism. I’m an introvert who feels called to pour out affection and not judgment.

I’m a liberal, feminist, evangelical Christian. Which sounds like an oxymoron to most people but makes total sense to me.

It has made online dating difficult, I’ll admit.

I’m “too this” for one crowd, “too that” for the other. I have a handful of “must haves” but they are very hard to find.

Next week (or whenever I can get to it), join me for a not-so-serious look at the good, the bad, and the ugly of online dating.

3 thoughts on “Online Dating: the [Suprisingly Serious] Preface

  1. Jackie- this is exactly how I feel most of the time! Minus the OCD.. but other issues..
    I look forward to reading more of your thoughts!
    Thanks for sharing!

  2. Jackie,
    I love you just the way you are. I’m glad you know your own head, most people don’t. I’ll pray you find someone to love and who loves you but always know you are loved.

    Aunt Mandy

  3. Liberal, feminist, evangelical Christian – love it! I think a lot of younger Believers these days identify with social issues more than former generations and so we tend to be evangelical Christians who also are liberal, or feminist, or pro-refugee or advocates for climate action or (insert social justice issue here)! And I think a lot of times God would be proud of how we try to bring our faith into practice by trying to meet others’ needs. Keep on!

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