I am a fixer. If someone comes to me with a problem, my first inclination is to FIX IT. I have to force myself to sit back and just LISTEN because my head is already ahead to solutions.
I hate leaving things un-fixed. I want to solve all issues NOW, to dive headfirst into creating a solution until that solution is in place. I hate to have things hanging over me. (Some of this is very strongly connected with the obsessive-compulsive part of me.)
But not everything can be fixed immediately. Sometimes there are issues that we need to sit with before solving. We grow simply from the patience we have to exert as we WAIT for all the ducks to line up in a row. And sometimes there are so many ducks, and they all seem to be on crack, and to get them to line up is a long, tedious process.
I want to be able to do steps 1-26 in one hour. But sometimes the person you need to connect with for step 1 is out of the office till Tuesday, and steps 2-4 can’t be done till after that, which pushes back steps 5-10 because they can only be done on weekends, and you can’t do the final step until you have a haircut and your stylist is booked a month out, etc. I HATE THAT.
That’s all I’m going to say about this, except for that this fixer is struggling with and learning patience this week.
Are you a fixer?