Being Single & Writing a Book

single taken empirePeople manage it every day: romance and writing.

I have no idea how.

I really don’t think that I’d have a completed book and a book deal if I were dating someone (or married, for that matter). I can barely juggle my relationships with friends and family, working a full-time job, and finding time to write all at once. I feel like if I suddenly had a sweet, hilarious, dorky, godly man (because that is the kind I’d want) in my life, my barely-there time management would utterly crumble.

Maybe not. What do I know?

The single years. Sometimes it feels like there have been too many; they are getting stacked upon each other so precariously that the tower is ready to topple. I think I will live if it does (though I’m not always sure). I am creating something beautiful in the next room over.

On a related note, have I ever told you to Date a Girl Who Writes*?

*if you’re sweet, hilarious, dorky, and godly


Image credit: Ben Raynal (top), Dmitry Ryzhkov (middle), Andrada Radu (bottom), stitched together and modified by me

11 thoughts on “Being Single & Writing a Book

  1. I like that phrase “building an empire”… And I really like the idea of “creating something beautiful in the next room over.” Exquisite and inspiring.

    Side note: I’ve read your “Date a Girl Who Writes” before, and I still maintain that it’s better than “Date a Girl Who Reads.” LOVE it.

  2. I relate to this A TON!
    I love writing, but I love doing so many other things too…it’s hard to delegate time!
    And when I met Danny, I didn’t write for about 2 months.
    I was just so excited and into our story that I could not work on fiction.
    Scratch that, I did write, EXTENSIVELY, in my journal, by hand.
    But the best part is,
    I have, in writing, in my own excited voice,
    all the early bits of knowing him,
    and the day I knew I was going to tell him I loved him,
    and all the cute things we did when we started out.

    I’ve re-read it a few times and it’s like falling in love all over again.
    Pure magic.

    I feel like I’m creating beautiful things in my head all the time,
    and my goal is just to get a sketch of them down.
    The super shiny ones will let me know,
    and I’ll work on those first.

  3. Personally, I don’t think I’d even have tried to write a novel without my partner. He’s the one who encouraged me to write in the first place.

  4. You build that empire, and build it strong. The best thing we can do with our lives is follow the vocation God calls us to. That may look different day to day, year to year, but what matters is that we honor it daily, whatever it is.

  5. Pingback: Four Thoughts on the Writing Life | Jackie Lea Sommers

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