Tonight’s Therapy Takeaway

Had a good session with my beloved therapist tonight, and she encouraged me to go home and journal about what stood out to me.

I said, “I’ll write a blog post … since I apparently like to publicize my breakdowns.” 🙂

Had a couple this holiday weekend. Talked with my editor last Wednesday and Thursday and was overwhelmed by that. My editor is amazing, brilliant, compassionate, and full of great instincts– but I maintain that critique is hard no matter what! I had given myself 2-3 weeks after the original feedback to prepare myself for revisions, but those weeks were up and now I didn’t have the luxury of letting everything marinate awhile.

So I started revisions on Thursday night.

It did not go well.

I sent my editor a spastic email.

The next day did not go well either.

I sent another spastic email– well, actually two.

Each time my editor responded (yes, even on the Fourth of July; she’s a gem) to calm me down.

I still was freaking out.

Then I crashed. TOTAL CRASH. To a dark, hopeless place where I couldn’t generate any excitement or energy. This part is often way scarier to me than the manic alive-ness of panic … the dull, quiet deadness of depression.

Time in scripture and in prayer pulled me back out of it– in a major, visible, crazy way. It was almost like a hand reached down and pulled me out of the sinkhole and set me on solid ground.

Tonight, in recounting those four days to my therapist, she reminded me that the body can only function in such intense high-alert panicky for so long before it needs to go into survival mode– which, in this case, is to essentially shut down. It’s doldrums as a rescue method (my words, not hers), and it makes a lot of sense to me.

Next time I have a high-alert buzzing go-go-go huge anxiety panic mode and then an immediate crash, I will recognize it (I think) for what it is and give myself some intense self-care.

TL;DR: body can only function in high-alert panic mode for so long before it has to crash to take care of itself. Next time I’ll be ready.

4 thoughts on “Tonight’s Therapy Takeaway

  1. This is exactly why 1 Kings 19 is my favorite Bible story. Elijah, God’s prophet, hero of Israel, gets scared and runs away. He despairs of his life, he sleeps, an angel comes and ministers to him by bringing him food, he runs a 40-day marathon, he hides in a cave, and then God comes and listens to him. And then God shows him that he is there, even in the quiet, still moments. And God gives him a plan of action and tells him he is not alone.
    Then he gets up, and he gets a partner.
    The higher we go, the farther we can fall. That you survived through the weekend, to me, shows that you’re becoming more successful, more influential like Elijah, and that your success (and this blog!) is going to inspire Elishas who will follow after you.
    Sometimes the journey is too much for us. Self care first, ministry and creativity second. Love you, girl! You’re an inspiration!

  2. … and if you need a friend to meet you in your sinkhole, let me know. I’ve been in the place where I’ve needed people to sit beside me when I am broken. And YOU have been there. 🙂

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